Hello ladies and gents,
Do you want to know the secret recipe for love?? Do you want a step by step guide that can lead to your happy ever after?? Well, I have just the thing you need and even better, it's FREE. Lean in close now.
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If you're looking to God to give you the map to your love story or life well look no more. Let me say this as lovingly as I can, IT'S NOT GOING TO HAPPEN. As one of my favvoorriittee authors says in his book Everybody, Always Bob Goff explains how "we want God to tell us all the details, but all we usually get is a promise that we'll see more of Him if we look in the right places" (97).
Guys lets back it up with some scripture. In 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 we see what the definition of love is. Again we see that love is actually a commandment from God, John 15:12. Love isn't an emotion that we simply do whenever we feel like it, real love is hard and raw and self-sacrificing. It's a commandment from God. Matthew 5:46-47, Jesus calls us to love EVERYBODY, you can't live that out on just emotions, it's a choice you decide to make.
If you're reading this you're probably already married or are engaged counting the days down until you say 'I do'. Well, when you say those magic words you're promising for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do you part. You are sticking with this person NO MATTER WHAT. Did you realize that you're marrying another sinner who God is still working on? Till death do you part, that's commitment right there. Really soak in those words.
Sacrificing isn't just acts of kindness. One really good example in the bible of this besides Jesus is in Hebrews 11:24-27, Moses was so in love with God he chose to leave royalty behind! I'm sorry but I think to many of us just shrug our shoulders at that like it's no biggie. I'm sure if we even got a taste of what Moses got to experience being royal for just one day we would even be tempted to stay in our comfortable bed with all the maids being at our beckon call.
He sacrificed what others thought was his future. He sacrificed comfort and risked it all in the name of love, aka Jesus.
Speaking of comfortable... That darn word. Friend, God does not call you to comfortable. The American Dream is too small of a dream and plan for what God has for you! Love is not comfortable, life is not comfortable. But God promises a peace that surpasses all understanding, John 16:33. Love is risky, God knows we cannot grow without risk. He gives us a purposeful and dangerous life. God doesn't promise a pain-free life, He promises the exact opposite. Buuutttttt, He wrote 66 love letter called the Bible to help you navigate this hard life.
You're gonna be tried in this life, but think about toothpaste for one moment. Lol, yes toothpaste. Other than the fact that there is a label on the tube, we know that toothpaste is actually in the tube because when it's squeezed that's what comes out. Likewise, when you're squeezed under the pressure of marriage or trying to be the perfect mother or father, what comes out of you is what is in your heart.
What about when I'm in emotional turmoil and my husband is deployed and I hear nothing from God? I feel like I've followed my husband everywhere all our lives and I'm drained and I just can't anymore. -- Romans 5:3-5, sometimes we don't hear from God because He is confidently quiet. God already believe in you, His silence isn't indifference. God isn't focused on your failures or successes, He's more concerned on your attempts.
IF YOU HAVEN'T BEEN REALLY TRACKING WITH WHAT I'VE BEEN SAYING THEN THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING YOU NEED TO TAKE AWAY FROM THIS BLOG. YOU ARE LOVED BY THE MOST HIGH. THERE'S NOTHING YOU CAN DO TO SEPARATE YOU FROM GOD. GOD'S LOVE KNOWS NO END.
Ephesians 5:25-33, this marriage thing is a BIG deal. You guys are a team, Genesis 2:21-23.
So to conclude the question of how long you should wait.. Forever, until death do you part. Wait for your beloved.